December 27, 2011

Our children go through childhood once , and we are the ones responsible for it.

Agile@Home :

 By using simple Kanban and scrum techniques,  Agile Kids teach you how to clean   out the daily tasks noise and free the valuable time to a meaningful family dialog.

You are wellcome to learn how.

Enjoy the Agile Kids Slideshow:

December 18, 2011

Empowering kids with Agile is actually pretty simple.

So what exactly is ‘empowerment’?

In one sentence, we can define empowerment as a process where the one with power (that’ll be you, the parent) gives up some of his power for another (your children), and at the same time he also maintains his limits and authority. This way BOTH sides grow and gain in strength.

In fact, we change from a position of no control, to a position of relative control. The empowerment process strengthens the self-confidence of the one being empowered, in his ability to function, make decisions and complete tasks.

In the work environment, the manager is the one with the power, whereas the employee is the powerless one. Take for example, an employee who is constantly getting chewed out. At some point, he will stop taking initiative and will only wait for instructions. Why? To avoid being punished for his mistakes. And neither he, nor the organisation, will grow.

Sometimes, it’s enough to strengthen the feeling of success to create the seeds of empowerment. In fact, from all the components of empowerment, the feeling of success is in my opinion the most important.

As our perception of reality alters our mood, sometimes all that is needed is to show how to perceive reality differently, which can change our mood.

For example, when a kid learns to ride a bike, he will feel successful when we encourage him even when he falls. We tell him that everyone falls when they just start out riding their bike. We tell him to look forwards, not down - and be there when he falls. When he finally learns to ride his bicycle, he will feel that he can do anything. On the other hand, if the kid learns to ride his bicycle after we tell him the whole way ‘why are you falling?’, ‘why aren’t you holding on?’, ‘how many times have I told you to look forwards?’, his feelings of success will be dwarfed by his disappointment, and we will miss out on the feeling of empowerment we could have achieved. Our child’s experience was one of failure.

Empowerment includes several elements, which are all included in Agile in the house.

“...empowerment  encourages people to gain the skills and knowledge that will allow them to overcome obstacles in life or work environment and ultimately, help them develop within themselves or in the society."

In fact, if we take a look at empowerment, we can see that through the Agile mindset and actions, we give our children exactly that - and more. For example:

The ability to make decisions about personal/collective circumstances:
We create  our task board at home. The board includes the tasks, decisions, and what we need to do. We stand in front of the board every day, and our children place their tasks on the board, deciding what they need to do today (or tomorrow). This ability, to place his own tasks and make his own decisions, is very important, and contributes a lot to his sense of ability and worth. It’s true that we, as parents, will place the limits, and ensure that tasks such as ‘only eat candy’ won’t be on the board, but within those limits - the child makes all the choices.

The ability to access information and resources for decision-making:
The task board enables visibility. We are around it every day. Visibility enables control. No more, and no less, and without noticing, that control strengthens our feeling of being capable. It doesn’t really matter about what in the beginning. When we feel in control, even of something small, with time we can leverage that feeling to our weaker areas as well. The family retrospective session enables forwards visibility, which gives children, and us parents, a sense of security. The situation becomes less vague and enables the children to function and make decisions with more certainty. When I know that Daddy will be coming home late all next week, I can plan tasks just for us, or with Mummy, or understand why Daddy isn’t reading me a bedtime story.

Ability to consider a range of options from which to choose, not just yes or no:
It’s very important to use the board to create options to choose from, and discuss those options.
Agile provides just the platform you need for this. There are many tasks on the board, and I can choose what to do. I am with my parents, and I discuss my choices with them. We recommend that you offer more than one option. Standing in front of the board and telling your children what they are going to do next misses the whole point of Agile Kids! You need to ask and guide your children. The task board is an excellent tool for this, as it focuses the conversation, and places all open issues in front of everybody, without singling out a specific family member or task as problematic.

Ability to exercise assertiveness in collective decision making
The whole family takes part in the daily meetings. Even if they are short, they still enable us to experience the decision-taking process together. The discussion itself enables growth. The children learn very fast to introduce themselves, talk about what they did the day before, what they did today, and what they intend to do. They learn to focus on what’s important, and make decisions accordingly.

Having positive-thinking about the ability to make change
When I succeed, I’ll think of success. When I see my success, I will see change. When I see change, I’ll start believing in it, as well.

Ability to learn and access skills for improving personal/collective circumstance:
The family is a micro social environment of the outside world, through which we learn behavioural patterns. Agile Kids gives us time to talk, learn from each other, look ahead, plan and learn from mistakes. This way, instead of dealing with things that aren’t getting done, we focs on what’s really important, and have time to learn new skills.

Involving in the growth process and changes that is never ending and self-initiated:
The children see their progress and success daily. They don’t just talk about it, or are told that they have succeeded - they have tasks in front of their eyes that have moved from one side of the board (‘To do’) to the other (‘Done’). And they were the ones doing the moving. It’s amazing how much this visible evidence of success delights them.
The more colourful and full the board is, the more they feel successful. Add to this the fact that we, the parents, are also there, seeing the success and talking about it, showing our children how proud we are.
The task board creates a feeling of involvement. We are the ones building the board, and we are the ones using the tool to bring about change. Sometimes this is exactly why we recommend that you start by putting tasks on the board that are likely to be completed successfully. If your child is having a hard time at maths, don’t start with that task. Start with something simple, like brushing their teeth every night. Build on that success, so that you can deal with the harder tasks later on.
Dealing with tasks isn’t magic (like suddenly developing an aptitude for maths) - it’s just being open to new methods of dealing with difficult tasks (such as breaking tasks into small parts). The willingness to open up to new methods is built on the feeling of success felt on achieving other tasks.

Increasing one's positive self-image and overcoming stigma
We’ve talked about this before, so in just a few words - sometimes it’s much easier for us to tell our kids what to do, rather than let them decide for themselves. When to tidy their room, what’s wrong -  instead of telling them how fantastic they are. Instead of feeling success, they just feel failure.
When you come home, and just complain about the tasks they didn’t do, you don’t compliment them on the tasks they DID do.

Agile Kids enables you to develop this pattern, and creates order and visibility around all the tasks. This opens a place for the family to talk about the tasks - and leaves plenty of room for praise.

So smile. Say how happy you are.

And have fun!

Want to learn more?  The agile kids book

     Blanchard, Kenneth H., John P. Carlos, and Alan Randolph. Empowerment Takes More than a Minute. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, 1996. Print.
     Stewart, Aileen Mitchell. Empowering People (Institute of Management). Pitman. London: Financial Times Management, 1994. Print.
     Thomas, K. W. and Velthouse, B. A. (1990) Cognitive Elements of Empowerment: An 'Interpretive' Model of Intrinsic Task Motivation. Academy of Management Review, Vol 15, No. 4, 666-681.
     Wilkinson, A. 1998. Empowerment: theory and practice. Personnel Review. [online]. Vol. 27, No. 1, 40-56. Accessed February 16, 2004.

See also
     Youth empowerment
     Angela Rose

December 11, 2011

What is a schedule board?

My friend’s kids, who have been practicing Agile at home for quite some time, started up their own board after fighting endlessly over who gets the television remote, and who’s turn is it on the computer.

The kids basically created two boards in one. One board for the computer and one for the television, putting up a sticky note to mark what each one did, and when. This way, they knew exactly who played what, and who’s turn it is next to watch their favorite TV show or playing on the computer. They even added a column for discussion.

This is the really amazing part that kids learn from Agile. When they have an argument, they just turn to a board for a solution, and make sure they have a place to talk over things during the daily gathering.

We really liked the fact that they thought about it for themselves and had the tools to initiate a solution. It might not be the most effective board, but it did the job, and solved the problem (at least for now :)) and this is what counts!
When my friend came home, the board was already set up in the living room, and her kids showed it off to her proudly, as kids do. The family made sure to track the board over the next few daily sessions, and very soon it became routine.
Well done!

December 04, 2011

Agile and the International Academy of Education.

Can children benefit from Agile?  Yes, they can!

Not only can they benefit from it, but Agile also provides a good ground for learning. So implementing Agile at home with our kids has a valuable learning benefits as well.

I’ll give you an example. I found Stella VosniadousInternational Academy of Education' booklet the other day, and I was amazed at how the board of education study fits Agile principles. So having your kids practice Agile is not only easy and fun, but it is also helps your kids to learn. You can use Agile for studying for exams, getting ready for debates, home schooling and so on.

Just as an example, here’s an excerpt from the booklet:

"The psychological principles described in this booklet summarize some of the important results of recent research on learning that is relevant for education...    ...This research has offered us new insights into the learning process and the development of knowledge in many subject matter areas. ...schools today … are attempting to become more student-centred than teacher-centred”

So here are some major principles taken from this booklet that we actually employ at home using agile:

1.    Learning requires the active and constructive involvement of the learner.
"Learning at school requires students to pay attention, to observe, to memorize, to understand, to set goals and to assume responsibility for their own learning. These cognitive activities are not possible without the active involvement and engagement of the learner."

Encourage the active participation of your kid in the daily gathering. They are the ones actively assigning, moving and taking ownership over tasks.
No one can stay passive.

2.    Learning is primarily a social activity and participation in the social life of the school is central for learning to occur. Agile is primarily a social and team activity. We encourage the team to commit, to be accountable. Agile at home isn’t different. The children have a chance to practice their social skills in safety before they go out into the real word. Agile at home is based on the fact that the family is the micro of child socialization, so it acts as a safe zone where they can learn social activities and then to "try" them on in the real world is most effective. We gather as a family, we learn to talk, to present ourselves, we learn to retrospect and we learn to interact with dignity and empowerment.

3.    People learn best when they participate in activities that are perceived to be useful in real life and are culturally relevant.

Practicing Agile at home, going over relevant day to day tasks, like the Morning Routine, or the Evening Routine, makes a good base from which to build other learning activities. These are highly relevant to the child’s day to day life and can be a good infrastructure to other learning activities along the way, which is also one of the reasons that it works so well at home.

Of course, this is only the tip of the iceberg. I highly recommend you take the time to read the entire study, as there are more principles in these booklet statements about motivation, learning curve, which are all interesting to the Agile world.

So, how do our children benefit?
Children use Agile to learn, as it is a good learning and communication tool. They learn how to manage their chores better, achieve better results preparing for their chores and they learn how to plan ahead for complicated tasks, and they learn how to communicate with their parents and siblings.

When we bring Agile into our home, we don’t just bring in the boards, tasks, priority and commitment. We take in much more than that. We adopt the mindset. And the mindset proves to be aligned with what helps our children learn better.

So what did we take from Agile?
     We took the empowerment principles.
     We took the self management principle.
     The principles of working in a social environment.
     Knowing how to present ourselves.

The children manage to communicate better, achieve teaching goals, home chores, learning better and, most of all, we have fun!


Want to learn more?  The agile kids book.